SEE RESPONSES ABEG....Can you tell your spouse how much you have in your bank account?

hehehehe.....Money-related matters have been identified by marriage counsellors to be one of the causes of most divorces. Oftentimes, the path to divorce sets in when one of the partners starts hiding something about his/her financial status. Fidelis Chidi blog asked some Nigerians whether they could tell their spouses the amount they have in their bank accounts

I’ll tell him because I love him

 

Iroko Elizabeth

I will tell him because I love him and there is nothing to hide about it, and I wouldn’t even bother to know what he has in his own account. I wouldn’t want to know how much my husband has in his bank account so as not to give myself depression. Once he meets my needs, I am fine. I will appreciate whatever he gives me. In order to avoid unnecessary misunderstanding, it helps to allow a man keep his financial status to himself.

He cannot rob me, so I’ll tell him

Precious Boluwatife

We are one, so there is no big deal in telling him how much I have. He is my husband and he cannot rob or harm me. On the other hand, I should also know how much he has for better understanding and planning. I will always be naked to him about my finances. It will help us to run our home well. We are one, so I don’t think I have to hide anything from him.

We are one

Oludipe Grace

He is my soulmate and whatever we do is in the interest of our children. It is better for both of us to know our financial status so that we can manage our finances well and understand ourselves better. I will tell him the truth and nothing less because money-related issues have caused trouble in some families. Since I love and trust my husband, I will gladly tell him.

I don’t hide things from him

Adejugbagbe Oluwatoyin

I will romantically tell my husband the amount in my bank account. Who else should know my account status if not my lovely husband? I trust him so much. I have got no option than to tell him. I don’t hide things from him; we are open to each other. Life will be much easier when spouses are open to each other, although I would not blame some people who cannot share such with their husbands. Some have their reasons too. I understand my husband and vice versa and so there is no secret.

It depends on his behaviour

Lydia Bello

As for me, it depends on his character, though my husband has not requested for such before. If he does, then I will have to think twice because he has his own personal account. If he is open to me, I will tell him. But if I cannot understand his character and I perceive he’s hiding some things from me, he does not deserve to know how much I have in my account. If he knows that I have much in my account, he might want to relieve himself of some responsibilities at home.

She doesn’t need to know

Kolapo Onakoya

I do not need to tell my spouse my account status because it could scatter my plans for the home. I wouldn’t like to tell her. It is better to have a separate account which my wife knows for the running of the home. I may be planning a big project and in my opinion, some women act on what they hear. If she knows how much I have in my account, that could be the time she will bring a list of items she needs and the ones she doesn’t. This may scatter my plans.

Telling her doesn’t reduce my account balance

Shittu Adeniyi

I can tell my spouse the amount in my bank account. There is nothing to hide since we are no more two, but one. Telling her doesn’t reduce the amount there and if I don’t tell her, it will not add to my account balance. There is nothing holding me down and it is better she knows so that if I give her anything available, she will understand that is all I have. It would even make me play safe on money issues and she would trust me more. Though this could depend on the kind of wife one has, but I know my own wife very well even before our marriage. We are helpmates and we even share secrets bigger than account balance.

It’s her right to know

Ajayi Micheal

She is my helpmate and not a stranger. It is even her right to know. My wife even knows how much I earn. It is very bad to hide issues like this from one’s spouse. If my salary increases, I will also tell her. My wife is my economic and financial manager. In fact, I give her my ATM card to withdraw for me because she is my helpmate. I do not hide anything from her.

I’ll gladly tell her

Afolabi Taiwo

I will be glad to tell her because I trust her and know her background. I will always tell her about anything I want to do. We have a joint account and we have our personal accounts and this has been working for us. A wise man must know how to treat women because they are weaker vessels. I will let her know what I have and I would love to know what she has too; if she is willing.

My wife knows everything about me

Gbenga Emmanuel

My wife knows many things about me even before we married. She knew my salary then and even now she knows what I’m earning. It is no big deal to tell her my account status. She is a contented person. It is only when she is not trusted or contented that I will have to be wise in my dealings with her. Love and trust play an important role here. In fact, my wife sometimes withdraws money for me. I care for her a lot, so there is nothing stopping me at all from telling her everything.

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