See responses.....What’ll you do if you find out your spouse buys a Val gift for an ex?

The celebration of the Valentine’s Day is usually marked by an exchange of gifts between lovers — both the married and unmarried. From boxes of chocolate, to jewellery, cards and big items like cars, etc., there’s usually a gift for every lover. But wait a minute! What are you going to do if you find out your spouse buys a Val gift for an ex. Here are some Nigerians’ responses: I’ll go buy for an ex too. Love Gagbe .....Since she couldn’t see any crime in buying a gift for an ex, there’s no crime in

buying one for an ex of minealso. There’s no problem about this. I’d visit a store too or probably order online a nice gift for my ex so that the equation would be balanced. Since I wasn’t angry when she bought for her ex, she shouldn’t be angry too if she found out I bought one for mine. In fact, I’d let her to be aware of my intention before I even send the gift. That’s called tit-for-tat.That’d be immature of her Kareem Semiu .........I don’t understand which kind of wife would go an extra mile in buying a Val gift for her ex-lover. That means there’s still some sort of affair between them. If not, why should she do that? That’s immaturity at the highest level. That’s her opening the door to infidelity. I’m very sure the guy too would want to buy a more expensive gift for her and from there they’d continue from where they stopped in their affair. This is so bad. My reaction would depend on the gift type .......Adekunle Taofeek.......If she had decided to buy her ex, say a Bible or Quran — as the case may be — I wouldn’t fret. In fact, I would be happy that she’s trying to help the guy spiritually. But if she bought him something romantic in nature, I’d be angry and I’d express it to her. Personally, I don’t believe once a man and woman are no longer in a relationship, they shouldn’t be friends again. However, there should be a limit and she has to watch out. That’s invitation to extra-marital affairs .......Onoja Emmanuel ......I wouldn’t take that lightly with her. The Bible says that former things have passed away and behold, all things have become new. Why should she be going after the former things again? That’s a sign of unseriousness at the highest level and she needs to wake up. If I’m not watchful, they would start their love play behind my back. I’d warn her about the consequences of buying a gift for an ex, which includes infidelity, if I found out. And she musttake to correction if she cares about our marriage.I’d ask my ex if I could also get her a gift ......Peter Nganga ........There is no problem about this at all. Since she had decided to open the walls for the serpent to come in, there’s no issue. Actually, there’s nothing serious here. All I need to do would be to also go look for an ex to buy a gift. After giving her the gift, I’d seal it with a kiss on her cheeks. Or wouldn’t this be what she wanted? It should be. I’m sure she wouldn’t be angry because she must have been doing this with her ex too for her to have gone to an extent of buying hima gift.If the lady didn’t buy for him, I’d be okay .......Sofiat AlabiI ........don’t understand this kind of gift. What is that supposed to mean? Meanwhile, my reaction would depend on whether the lady also returned the gesture by also buying gift for my husband. If this is the case, that means there’s fire on the mountain. But if the lady didn’t buy any gift in return for my husband, I might be okay a bit. Either way, it’s not good for my husband to have done such a thing. That’s tantamount to taking me for granted.He might need to explain why he did so ........Shekinah Komere .........Before doing such a thing, he must have armed himself with several reasons for doing so, I’m so sure of that. Well, if the reasons are genuine, I might let him alone. But if not, I would start suspecting him for having extra-marital affairs. A genuine reason, for instance, could be that the lady in question needs some money to carry out surgery andmy husband donates to her. I’ll understand — only if I’m sure they’re no longer seeing each other.I wouldn’t bother too much .........Susan Abiola .......If you want peace in your life always, never be bothered so much about the things people do to you. This is one of the lessons I have learnt in mylife. Also, if one person has decided to express their foolishness, why should I be troubled? Hypertension kills and I wouldn’t want to cause one for myself by being worried too much. Let him go and buy gifts for allhis exes, I still wouldn’t care. This, however, doesn’t mean I would be happy about his action.Love your neighbour (including your ex) as yourself .......Deji Grace ......Okay, now that he had bought it, there’s no problem. There’s no crime in loving. The Bible says we should love our neighbour (including our exes) as ourselves. All I would tell him is: ’My husband, I need a bigger and more expensive Val gift’. If he does just this, I’d leave him alone and not make issue out of the matter .He should go and collect the gift back ........Tongha Ekine ......
There’s nothing to fight about here. I would warn him that if he needed peace in our home, he should go andcollect the gift from the lady. I mean, I cannot seem to understand why one’s husband would go and buy his ex a gift. Even if he bought for me too, that doesn’t explain it. It’s unreasonable and even wickedness. This is the kind of thing some women hear and they faint or commit suicide. Why do some men love two women at the same time and can’t focus on one?