SEE COMMENTS.........Would you tell your spouse about N1m gift having refused your plea for money?

Our correspondents sampled opinions of some Nigerians on whether they would disclose the gift of N1m to their spouses having rebuffed their requests for money

Telling her’ll strengthen our marriage – Odugbesan Busayo

I will tell my wife about a gift of N1m because I feel that will make our marriage stronger. What if she finds out from the giver, wouldn’t she feel bad? Yes, she will. As a couple, my friends are equally her friends too and I know that one way or the other she will get to know. In order to avoid issues in future, I will tell her. I will tell her because we are open to each other. The only thing is that I will spend the money on what I plan to spend it on and she should not question me.

I’ll give her part of it but won’t tell her – Austin Odigia

I will not tell her but I will give her a part of the money. I wouldn’t tell her because of what she did by refusing to give me money. The little money I will give her will make her see reasons not to refuse to give me money whenever I ask her next time. In fact, she will even be surprised that I gave her money and it will make her feel bad that she didn’t give me the money I asked from her. She will even think I only tested her. This will make her to always be quick to respond or give me money anytime I ask her.

She’ll list needless needs if l tell her – Victor obani

To be candid, I will not tell her because women have a way of building wall around money. I believe once I tell her she will start creating budget around it and some of her needs would be unnecessary. The fact that she didn’t even give me the money I requested from her was bad. With that, she has created or given me a negative perception of her.

I’ll tell her but not the amount – Akirinola Eniola

I am someone who does not hide things from my wife. I tell her everything. Even if she refuses me money, I will still let her know. I will not tell her the amount I was given but I will tell her that someone gave me money. There is a difference between telling her I was given money and the amount I was given. If I tell her the amount, she will always picture the percentage of her share. She will not tell me directly to give her the money, but she will make demands one after the other. She will start by telling me she wants to get one thing and later request another thing. Before one knows it, unnecessary things will follow. Naturally, everyone likes money but I will say women like money more.

Odugbesan Busayo, Austin Odigia

I’ll let her know despite refusing me money – Joshua Daboiku

I will let her know even though she refused to give me money when I asked for it. If I cannot share financial information with my wife, it is possible that at the beginning of our relationship, she did not evince any interest in financial transactions. My wife is the kind of person that is involved in my financial matters. It is important that we communicate on a day-to-day basis and we should be on the same page when it comes to budgeting. This is the main reason why I will still have to let her know.

My partner’ll know about the money gift – Iyabo Agbabiaka

I am 100 per cent sure that if I ask my husband for N1m, he will give me if he has it. Therefore, if I am lucky to be gifted N1m, I will surely let him know. A similar case happened last year. A male friend and good customer of mine asked me to make a particular bag for his 60th birthday. I told him I had the leather in my shop and he was amazed I had a shop. He decided to partner with me and he gave me some money. I told my husband about it. He is my partner and I should let him know if I am gifted money by a friend or an acquaintance.

I may not tell him – Taiwo Kareem

I may not tell him I got N1m cash gift. But being an observant man, he will know especially when he sees me doing some wonders with money. Also, I may invest it directly in a landed property to pay him back for refusing my plea for money. The only reason why he will know is if I realise that he genuinely didn’t have provision for my request. But if otherwise, he does not deserve to know.

I’ll tell him but he won’t get part of it – Olayinka Obabolujo

I believe in empowering woman in any family. The wife is the backbone of the family and obviously, she is saddled with the responsibilities of caring for the children and the house as a whole. It is not every need that should get to the table of my husband before I find a solution to it. On my part, I should be a co-builder. However, if the man of the house does not deem it fit to help out with my plea for money, I should show that I have a large heart and tell him of the N1m gift even if he would not share part of it. The focus is to work for the success of the family.

I’ll determine what to use it for – Olufunso Babalola

If I am lucky to be gifted N1m, I will let my spouse know about it even after he has refused to give me money when I needed it. I will let him know the source of the money and what I intend doing with it. This will prevent him from rolling in some other expenses and things he feels should be done. Besides, I am the one given N1m and I should be the one to suggest what to do with it. I may decide to invest or spend it on pressing needs but I will make sure I let him know about it.

He’ll know but won’t decide how to spend it – Abidemi Ohwonohwo

Yes, I will tell him know because I am naturally not one to keep such kind of secret from my husband. Also, he always knows whenever I have money on me and I do too whenever he has money. The only thing I would do is that I will be the one to decide how the money will be spent. He will not be given the chance to decide that because he had refused me money when I needed it and to God be the glory, I was lucky enough to be gifted with good money.