hehehe....Counsellors say how far couples go in
the journey of marriage is often determined by the degree of love which
exists between the two parties. Ironically, not all partners experience
mutual love. In some cases, the man loves the woman more than she loves
him and vice versa. Fidelis Chidi blog sought the opinions of some Nigerians
to know if they would rather prefer to marry someone they love or
someone who loves them
I prefer to marry someone who loves me
Shade Alobalowo
I wouldn’t want to marry someone who I
love because I am a woman and if I love a man more than he loves me, I
might be wasting my time if he doesn’t love me in return. I don’t like
it when some women force themselves on men. There are several men out
there. For a marriage to last longer, I will prefer to marry a man who
loves me rather than me loving him, though I will reciprocate the love
later.
I’ll marry someone I love
Ohaeri Chilaka
I am a man and the head of the family,
so I must always make myself responsible first. I must love the person
that I want. For my marriage to last, it will be better if I love the
woman more. She would have no choice but to love me back. A man is
expected to show more interest than the female. As a man, I will love
who I will marry and the person would love me in return. No two ways
about it.
I’ll marry who I love
Ayibama Joy
I wouldn’t marry someone who doesn’t
love me because I might find it hard to obey him. But if I marry someone
who loves me, I will be able to tolerate him, advise and understand
him. It will be of greater advantage to me to marry someone who loves
me. I know I will love him in return.
True love doesn’t exist again
Shodunke Ayodeji
As for me, I don’t agree with the fact
that I should marry who I love or who loves me. True love doesn’t exist
in my dictionary. The best I know is to marry a friend because if my
love for the woman begins, then what happens if it begins to fade?
Friendship is better than love; it produces love. Love is also
understanding because if there is understanding, then there won’t be
divorce. Friends fight a lot, but understanding will keep them going in
their marriage. It is better to marry a friend even though I may not
love her.
Love should be reciprocal
Shukurat Onipede
I can’t specifically say I would marry
someone I love or who loves me. Love should be reciprocal. I will marry
someone with whom I share mutual love. It could be dangerous for me to
marry someone I don’t love or who doesn’t love me. Love is expected to
grow and there should be no end to it. So, I will marry someone who
shows love to me the way I show it to him.
I’ll marry who loves me
Fatomilola Paul
Most men at first glance love a woman
because of her physical stature, but it is left for the woman to make
the love work for both. As a man, I don’t really love women, but they
are always attracted to me. If the woman is able to replicate my love in
double-fold, then I will marry her. Marriage is not just a thing of the
mouth; it is dedication and submission. I will marry a woman who loves
me because she will be able to respect my orders and this will also make
her to fear me. Her own love will make my love stands and this will
pave way for the marriage to work out.
I’ll marry someone who loves me more
Ramota Alade
I will not just marry a man who loves
me, but who loves me more than I love him. If my husband loves me more,
there will be a greater expression of love. He would have my fear in his
heart and wouldn’t cheat on me. I will also love him dearly, but I
won’t be too stupid to express it too much because he could take it for
granted and might take advantage of it by maltreating me.
Love is not partial
Aaron Idris
Marriage is an agreement between two
parties and the Bible says I should love my neighbour as myself, not
above myself. Love is not commanded to be partial because if it is, one
party might take advantage of the other. I will marry someone who loves
me dearly, while I reciprocate. I wouldn’t expect a woman to love me
more because they are weaker vessels. A man will always try to satisfy a
woman in all ways, but this is not achievable in the absence of love.
Love should be equal
Balikis Usman
I will not marry someone who does not
love me. Though it might be hard to find true love, the truth remains
that love must be balanced between two people. It is expected that a man
woos me, but before I can dance to his tune, I must be convinced to a
reasonable extent. With mutual love, both of us can plan our future.
Love must be mutual; there must not be partiality at all. I’ll marry someone who has 60% love for me
Vincent Tokunbo
Love is sometimes unquantifiable, but
all the same, I will marry a woman who loves me more because she will
understand me, manage me to her taste and the marriage will last longer.
A woman must be able to coordinate her husband and when a woman loves
more, the man has to fear her. The problem is that some men take
advantage of women who love them more. If I marry such a woman, I will
be able to take some decisions as a man that I wouldn’t let her know
because women are weaker vessels. I will marry someone who has 60 per
cent love for me while I have the 40 per cent
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