hehehehe......... It
is a fact that some married women always shut their husbands out
s*xually. It starts little then it gets to that point they are
completely not interested in having s*x.
You wonder why the woman you love and have always had s*x with at
any time you wanted would suddenly stopped wanting you. It has even
become a routine. Once it’s bed time, the lights are turned off and she
faces the other side of the wall, she ignores or turns down every of
your touches, and her excuses ranges from tiredness, feeling sleepy,
menstrual cramps, waist pain, she’s not feeling well, not in the mood or
an outright ‘leave me alone’. She goes to sleep until the next morning.
These excuses continues for weeks, months and even years.
You have to know that your wife shutting you out s*xually didn’t
just happen overnight, there was a build up until it got to where you
are right now. She may have always complained in the past by her actions
and inaction but you ignored or even didn’t understand her body
language. So, you are at the point you either have s*x with her by
force, cheat on her or let her just be.
Your woman sure have her real reasons for denying you s*x but
because she is scared of bruising your ego with her truth, she sticks to
her excuses of tiredness, waist pain, menstrual cramps etc. Her true
reasons may include: her inability to enjoy s*x with you or even
experience orgasm.
You have never given her a mind blowing sex. In fact, s*x with you
is open and close, No fore play, no romance, no kissing, no cuddling or
any form of creativity, you are just thrusting in and out, and overtime
sex style became monotonous, a routine and she is bored out of her mind.
For the fact that she’s scared of expressing herself s*xually, she kept
massaging your ego with moaning sounds that makes you feel you are
doing a good job. You also get comfortable believing she enjoys it your
way, but in the real sense, she wishes you can even ask her how she
likes it better.
Your state of hygiene could be another reason. Your hygiene has
become so terrible that even your breath alone almost chokes life out of
her and she has lost every form of sexual attraction towards you. You
sometimes return from work and want sex straight away without even
taking a shower or even freshening your breath.
She could also be indulging in self-s*x that she enjoys sex better
stroking herself with her fingers, inserting objects like cucumber,
vibrator etc and her excuse is she has never enjoyed s*x with you
because of your last finger size.
You could also be too big for her and a rough rider, s*x becomes
torturous, she’s going through pains while you are pounding away and all
her pleas falling on deaf ears, she ends up internally bruised and torn
around the edges of her v*gina.
She could be suffering from ‘vaginismus’, the condition where the
vaginal muscles involuntarily or persistently contract when you attempt
penetration. This contractions can make s*x very painful. Her pains
could be psychological as well, may be due to a traumatic r*pe
experience.
You are a ‘one minute man’, you turn on and off like an electric
switch. You arouse her and before she even gets half way, you have cum
(climaxed), leaving her unsatisfied, while you dose off or go to the
bathroom to clean up.
It is also possible she could be cheating on you with someone else;
or she has lost every form of libido due to some emotional hurts as a
result of your cheating or abuse and she shuts down s*xually.
Some women sank themselves into religion to a point they see sex
with their partner as a sin. They take solace in praying and fasting,
numbing their bodies and minds against s*x.These set of women also use
age as excuse, the older, the more s*xually distanced they become. And
so much more
Dear men, Be romantic, pay her attention, take her out on a date
even if it is to eat just a plate of pepper soup and a bottle of drink,
support her dreams, listen to her, take long evening or morning walks
together. Be the man she fell in love with again and she will be the
girl that made your heart race.
Even if your househelp is around, it’s not a bad idea to roll up
your sleeves and get into the kitchen with your wife. Help just a little
or just chat her up, look at her in a very suggestive manner, You will
be amazed at how happy and eager your woman will share her body when she
knows you are there to share all the big and small parts of her life.
Don’t ever stop flirting with your wife. Tell her how beautiful she
is and how much you appreciate her. Encourage her to shed weight by
volunteering to walk out with her. Send her text messages, massage her
feet. Have some sense of humour, it loosen her up, try to not be too
rigid or sacarstic.
You have got to take care of yourself, clean up properly. Dont just
leave the toilet door open when at it, wear deodorant, smell good,
Don’t just take a shower and go straight to bed for s*x, brush your
mouth properly, throw in a minty gum or TomTom sweet to keep you breath
fresh.
If you take s*x enhancement drugs to help you last longer during
sex, you may just try to tone it down a little, your woman sometimes
needs a free and fair Erection to satisfy her, not the one that keeps
firing her even after 30 minutes and you are yet to near orgasm.
If she resists your touch and s*xual advances consistantly by
coming up with all kinds of flimpsy excuses, then it is time to talk.
Communication is key to a healthy s*xual life. Have a hearty chat with
your wife, ask her what you are not doing right and why she’s shutting
you out. Such discussion should not be done immediately she turns you
down or at bed time, it should be in the day time when eyes are 4, while
looking intensely into her eyes, choose her favourite location or go
on a picnic, make the atmosphere conducive, Ask her questions. Don’t be
embarrassed. There is nothing to be ashamed of making your wife’s s*xual
need a priority.
You are learning together and Practice makes perfect. To get good
s*x you need to communicate better. See a gynecologist or a sex
therapist if the pain persists
Come with an open mind should she drop a bombshell that has to do
with your size, body odor or bad breath, play the fool, ask her to help
guide you to do it better and you cannot do it properly if she won’t
guide you.
Once she opens up to you on her reasons, please do not use it
against her, let it help you make her a better and willing partner in
the other room.
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By: Amaka Nicholas for The Sun
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