SEE RESPONSES....Can you lend money to your in-law?

Money is one of the factors that cause conflict in many relationships. Recently, a woman lent her in-law some money. After the time for repayment had lapsed and she asked for her money back, all she got were several insults from her debtor. The money was not eventually paid back. Fidelis Chidi blog asked some Nigerians whether they could lend money to their in-laws

I can because we’re one

Chidinma Okafor

I will lend if I have. Love is an important determinant here. Provided we love and understand each other, then there is nothing bad in it. We are one. I am part of their family. There is a saying in my place that your in-law is your god. Many of us are now against this, though. What I know is that I will not lend without expecting to be paid back. Like I said, I am automatically one of them, so I will treat them as my family.

It depends

Kafayat Oladejo

I can lend my in-law money  if I have a cordial relationship with the person. There are some in-laws who don’t like you while some are different, I cannot lend to all of them because fingers are not equal. I can even dash out to some of them if I have more than enough based on our cordial relationship. If not, I will never lend money to them. I will tell them with wisdom that I don’t have. There are some family members I cannot lend money to because they are useless. Imagine someone who uses his money to drink alcohol excessively or spends it recklessly. I can never lend to such a person.

I’ll direct them to my husband

Vincent Onuh

I have seen a lot when it comes to this. I will never lend my in-laws money, even at emergency. I would rather direct them to my husband. I can only give freely if I have, but to lend, no. Apart from in-laws, I have lent money to friends and they never returned it. I remember a female friend who lent her in-law money and when she asked for it, her husband got to know about it. She was beaten and called several bad names by the same in-law. They said she was such a disrespectful wife.

It depends on the amount

Patience Adediwura

This will be based on the agreement between us. I can only lend money to an in-law depending on the amount they are asking. For instance, in a situation whereby my in-law needs about N500,000 to start a business and they know I can afford about N200,000, I can lend them if I have the money and I trust the person to return it. In summary, I can only lend to an in-law that I know is capable of returning it.

It’s difficult to collect such money back

Akeju Ololade

I am a very different person. Irrespective of the person involved, I am always looking at the capability of the person to pay back . I can only lend out money that I am ready to forget. Money is always easy to borrow by people, but when it is time to pay, there will be trouble. I do not want any trouble for myself at all because you will be given several bad names if you are not wise in your dealings with people. I will never borrow from them also.

Yes, I can

Lukman Adeoye

Why not? If I have the financial capability and having it in mind that no situation is permanent, I can lend money to them. The person I help today may be my saviour tomorrow. But there will be limit to what I can lend out. Also, if the particular person has always been too demanding, I will not lend them money. I can lend any other in-law who doesn’t demand frequently. However, if they do not pay back, there is no problem. I can tell my wife to help me ask them.

It depends on our relationship

Sunday Itua

It depends on the relationship that is between us because before he or she can come to me, then we must be close. I do not see anything bad here. But if I lend them money and they don’t return it, it’s all well and good. I will not kill myself or fight them because it is natural that  that happens because if it were to be my family member, I would also not do anything or threaten them to pay. They gave me my wife and I should pay back.

I won’t try it

Nnaemeka Job

I will not lend money to my in-law, but rather, l will give out the little I can afford without expecting a payback so as to allow my mind to be free. I would never try to lend them money at all. Even during an emergency, I will not lend because I also have a family and business. I will never lend them because of the fear that they will not return it. I do not joke with money even with friends because it is always difficult to collect. I will not also go to an in-law to request for financial assistance because by the time you do that, you may lose respect.

I can if there is love

Sunday Ogah

There is nothing stopping me from lending them money as I too can borrow from them. I can lend money to them if I have the financial capacity and depending on the situation of the person asking. There must be a term of repayment, though I will not kill myself if they refuse to pay back. But if it’s a huge amount and I need the money back and they refuse to pay, I will get it from their daughter, who is my wife.

I can’t lend money to in-laws

Idialu Charles

I cannot lend my in-laws any money. If it were my friend, I could because you can shout on a friend and fight if they are not ready to pay back. Can you do that to an in-law? They also know that if they don’t return the money, there is nothing you can do. Who will I report the person to if they refuse to pay back? I can only give them what I can afford to avoid trouble because too much familiarity brings disrespect. However, if it is an emergency situation, say someone needs blood transfusion and needs money urgently, I can lend and will not expect to be paid back. If they give me back, fine. Meanwhile, I can also never borrow from an in-law, no matter the situation.