Hehehe,....Disagreements are bound to ensue among
couples, because naturally, people are expected to react to issues
differently. Marriage counsellors say the response and manner in which
couples react to matters are determinants of the survival of their
marriages. If their spouses slapped them in the public for whatever
reason, Fidelis Chidi blog asked some Nigerians what their reactions would be.
I’ll feel bad
Rejoice Ada
Why
would he slap me in the public? That’s just too mean. I will feel bad,
but I will expect that he apologises promptly. If he does that, I’ll
forgive him, though I may not really forget about the incident. All the
same, I will still love him like I used to, if he repents. It’s only
when he wants to take my kindness for granted that I will show him my
other side.
She must give me a million reasons she did so
Charles Adebowale
Which kind of wife slaps her husband in
the public? Even if she did so in the closet, does it make it normal?
No! No matter what I could have done or said that angered her, I could
never have deserved such treatment. That’s way too far. The best thing
she has to do for her own sake is to promptly apologise publicly so that
I would not be angry at her madly. If she can’t apologise, then she
must be ready to give me a million reasons why she slapped me. It is an
embarrassing act.
He has to tell me why and apologise
Fatimo Babalola
That kind of man is a beast. No matter
what I could have said to him that made him to be angry, he didn’t have
any right to slap me. If he wants peace in the home thereafter, he
should tell me at once why he slapped me, then he must apologise and
compensate me for not returning that slap. Truth is, returning the slap
would only be a show of shame in the public and it will be an
embarrassment to friends and family members that learn about it later.
I’ll choose the path of honour by asking for reasons and letting him beg
for my forgiveness.
I’ll stop eating her food
Joe Oladokun
I’ll clean my cheeks up, though naturally
I would be angry. That’s expected of me. But being a gentleman comes
with so many sacrifices. For instance, it’s not possible for me to pay
her back by landing my own slaps on her cheeks. I’ll get over it, at
least while we were still in the public. It’s when we get home that I
may then bother to ask her what went wrong. Failure to produce an answer
and apologise will be too mean of her and that, I will not take
lightly. There are ways to deal with her, but I won’t disclose much. One
of them is to refuse to eat her food and communicate with her. It’s a
painful experience, but I can’t retaliate – as a gentleman.
I’ll warn him never to try it again
Gloria Gwen
Seriously, that is a rude action. No
matter what a woman does or says against a man, he doesn’t need to
respond in such manner. Even some illiterates don’t do that. You have to
respect your wife and she will respect you too. As for me, I will warn
him never to try it again, because that’s a form of physical abuse and
infringement on my rights. If he is remorseful, I will find a place in
my heart to forgive him and let the matter go.
I’ll leave the scene at once
Taofeek Otufowora
It can only happen when someone is too
crude, because I don’t think any civilised woman will resort to slapping
her husband – even privately – for any reason. It is surely a sign of
crudeness. Meanwhile, I could never have opened my eyes wide to marry
such a woman. Assuming it happens, I’ll leave the scene immediately,
without her. But if it’s an event or programme that I needed to be
around throughout, I would manage to stay without talking to her. she
should be made to realise her cruelty and apologise.
I’ll just walk away
Mary Okegbile
There is no need to also display madness.
If he chooses to descend so low like that, I don’t have to follow suit.
Not returning the slap would pass a stronger message to him – if he is a
mature person. In that kind of scenario, I just need to walk away from
the scene and go and sit down quietly somewhere. But if I have the
means, I can just go home and relax, while awaiting his return. If he
knows what is good and he’s mature, he will come home remorseful and on
his knees begging me.
She’ll pay for it
Bebe James
She has to pay for that, right there or
when we return home. I don’t think you have to simply rub your cheeks
and let it go. That’s simply an aggressive manner. It is not a good
thing. It makes one look like an animal. It shows total disrespect. I
will try not to return my own slap, but she has to beg me in the
presence of the same people she had slapped me. If she fails to do that,
she might be calling for separation. Next time, she will learn that you
don’t slap your ‘head’ for any reason.
One needs to treat him like a monster, too
Ebere Favour
I don’t tolerate nonsense. Men should not
be made to think they have any special rights over women. They are to
take care of their wives, protect them, provide for them and even shield
them away from monsters. But when a man becomes a monster, one needs to
treat him like one. I would also give him a dirty slap if that happens.
I guess he will learn a lesson from there that he didn’t marry a fool.
It’s not easy, though, but he shouldn’t have slapped me.
That can only happen if she’s the breadwinner
Uzor Isaac
I guess the only factor that could give a
woman the gut to slap her husband is if she is the breadwinner of the
family, which doesn’t make it right by the way. However, whether she is
or not, I will respond appropriately – not necessarily by slapping her
back, because I’m not a monster, but I could refuse her so many things,
as a man. For instance, I could punish her by not sleeping with her
again. When she comes back to her senses and does the needful, I will
resume again. But really, it’s painful.
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