Hehe..if you are not married dnt touch or click this....if i catch you...hehe...Is ‘G’-spot a reality or myth? Does it really exist? Why is my wife’s vagina not having a ‘G-spot location?
Recently, I have been receiving several
calls, sms and mails about the mystery of ‘G’-spot. So, I thought it
would be nice to revisit it for the lovers of this mysterious spot. In
this article we would unravel the myth for the benefit of our readers.
For many married couples, when the honeymoon is over, sex becomes a
boring routine. At such times, the urge to make love often gives way to
the tendency to view sex as just a marital commitment. The reason is
that most couples make the error of assuming that lovemaking can be
exciting and enjoyable only at the initial stage of their relationship.
The truth is that to keep up the
excitement in their sex lives, married couples will have to go out of
their way to discover new methods to spice it up. For every couple that
has been together for some time and has gone the extra mile to try out a
variety of sexually stimulating experiences, lovemaking is guaranteed
to become more thrilling and adventurous than it used to be at the early
stage of marriage. One of the ways to achieve this is through the
stimulation of the ‘G’ spot. And from the countless of questions flowing
in, many couples still do not know the technicality of the instrument
of this ‘G’- spot.
Originally named after the German
gynaecologist, Ernst Grafenberg, who first described it in 1944 and
theorised its existence, this ‘sacred spot’ has engaged the attention of
sex scientists for more than a thousand years. Grafenberg described it
as an erotic zone on the anterior wall of the vagina that ‘swells out
greatly at the end of orgasm.’
The G-spot can be found on the front
wall of the vagina. It is made of erectile tissues and often enlarges
when stimulated. If properly stimulated, it can cause women to
experience high levels of sexual arousal and then, reach a powerful
orgasm. If a husband wants to find out whether his wife has one or not,
the best way to do this is to try and feel for an area that’s rough, a
bit like a walnut, rather than smooth and silky like the rest of the
vaginal wall.
For some women, stimulation of the
G-Spot creates a more intense orgasm than can be achieved through
stimulation of the clitoris. But it is important to note that not all
women can experience orgasm through stimulation of the G-spot.
The female G-spot is surrounded by
controversies and conflicting theories. To some people, especially women
who think it is essential to achieving orgasm, there is far too much
evidence to deny its existence. To others, it is simply non-existent.
Many women swear that it gives them an orgasm unlike any other. Some
even ejaculate fluid and go into uncontrollable spasms from a G-spot
orgasm. For many women, it’s a highly sensitive, highly erotic area that
provides hours of pleasure. For others, it’s a twisted bit that, when
touched too much, creates an overwhelming sensation of needing a wee.
There are some debates about what the
G-spot actually is. Some researchers say that the G-spot is the urethral
sponge, also referred to as the female prostate. The urethral sponge is
a cushion of tissue that sits against the vaginal wall and surrounds
the urethra. The fact that the Skene’s glands (responsible for female
ejaculation) are contained in the urethral sponge supports this theory.
Another line of thinking is that the G-spot is simply the back end of
the clitoris. This theory is supported by the fact that the clitoral
nerves extend along the vaginal walls and into the body.
The truth may be somewhere in the middle
as the urethral sponge and the clitoral nerve are closely
interconnected. Unless you’re a scientist, this shouldn’t even matter
much anyway. In the end, all that matters is knowing how to find and
stimulate the G-spot.
To give a ‘G’ spot stimulation, sex
experts recommend inserting the forefinger to about the second knuckle
and making a ‘come here’ motion towards the front vaginal wall. While
performing this, a husband needs to experiment with pressure and length
of stroke to find out what feels best for her. It’s important that she
is sexually aroused first and it is also worth noting that since many
ladies’ sensitivity varies throughout the month because of their cycle
and hormonal variation, partners should be very observant.
During stimulation and caressing, the
first sensation might be the need to want to go and wee, possibly
because the G-spot is on the front wall of the bladder, so the bladder
is being pushed and excited. So, before a couple engage in ‘G’ spot
stimulation, the wife can check out by making sure her bladder’s empty
first, then seeing how it feels. The first couple of times, it might be a
bit odd, but many women say a little perseverance is more than worth
it.
Do most women feel their ‘G’ spot is
being stimulated during vagina penetration? Well, sometimes some do but
this depends on the size and exact location of their G-spot, and it also
depends on the sexual position such couples engaged in at that time,
the depth of the thrusting and the firmness of the vagina. All these
have a part to play, so therefore a woman may or may not be able to feel
her ‘G’ spot stimulation during intercourse.
Some women say they ejaculate when their
G-spot is stimulated. Research has shown that approximately 10 per cent
of women expel between 9ml and 900 ml of fluid from the urethra during
arousal and orgasm and that the G-spot is the equivalent of the male
prostate. Remember, we’re all unique. Some female may have a sensitive
G-spot or some may not.
Most women describe G-spot orgasms as
deep, whole body experiences. These orgasms last much longer than
clitoral orgasms and the vaginal muscles spasm and contract much more
violently. Many say that G-spot orgasms are the most powerful type of
orgasm and hit like rolling waves of pleasure. They are sometimes
followed by a euphoric sensation that may last up to a half an hour.
G-spot orgasms may cause your spouse to eject a varying amount of clear,
silky fluid through her urethra. This is most commonly referred to as
female ejaculation.
This week, we shall deal with the
actual guides to finding and stimulating the G-spot. The emphasis is on
how husbands could find and stimulate this all-important erotic zone.
But first, it is important to note that sensations will be different
from one person to another. Just as some women prefer a light touch on
their clitoris and others enjoy firmer pressure, sensitivity to G-spot
stimulation varies. Some women ejaculate during G-spot orgasm, others
don’t. Some will enjoy having their G-spot stroked, while others may
find it uncomfortable and irritating.
Husbands should simply experiment and
find out what their wives love. It is definitely possible to give your
spouse a G-spot pleasure and a good foreplay is the best prelude to
achieving a good G-spot orgasm. She should feel loved, and completely
comfortable with you. She will be able to fully let go and G-spot
orgasms will come easier.
Husbands should make sure their hands
are clean and their fingernails are clipped short, because they are
going to be staying long around her most sensitive parts. Foreplay is
compulsory because unlike men, who are ready to go at a moment’s notice,
most women need a little bit of time to warm up to really get into the
mood. In order to help your wife achieve a G-spot orgasm, you will
really have to spend time on foreplay. You may start with a sensual
massage with lots of oil. This will relax her and also help to build
intimacy. Massage her entire body for at least 20 minutes. Try to stay
away from her hot spots and amplify it by kissing her deeply and
nibbling her neck, or whatever she really enjoys. Go ahead and stimulate
her clitoris until she’s bucking her hips and begging for you inside of
her.
Once she is turned on, then look for a
comfortable position for both of you. It will help a lot if she lies on
her back with her knees bent. You can kneel between her knees or sit on
either side of her body. Make sure you are both comfortable. With your
palm up, insert a finger or two some inches into her vagina. Slightly
crook them towards you, making a “come here” motion. You should feel a
spot on the front wall of her vagina that is rougher or more ridged than
the surrounding area. If you are not sure, don’t worry about it too
much. The G-spot will grow in size as you stimulate the area. Keep your
“come here” motion gentle at first, and slowly increase the pressure as
the G-spot becomes larger. When you find the pressure that she responds
the best to, keep it constant. Some women may feel a slight urge to
urinate during this process of stimulation. This should soon give way to
an intensifying pleasure that will replace any discomfort. It may take
up to half an hour of stimulation for her to reach a G-spot orgasm, but
don’t worry because it is worth the while. When she has a G-spot orgasm,
you’ll know. Her vagina will contract violently, so violently, in fact,
that it may feel like she is trying to push your fingers out. G-spot
orgasms are also accompanied by uncontrollable panting or moaning and
sometimes, female ejaculation. Clitoral stimulation can produce multiple
orgasms, but they are more common with G-spot stimulation. If she still
wants more after the first one, continued stimulation may lead to a
second, third, or even a tenth orgasm. Multiple or not, many women swear
that G-spot orgasms are one of the most satisfying, fulfilling
experiences of their entire lives.
Having done justice to the female
G-spot, let us examine the male G-spot. I am sure you must be wondering
if men also have one. Yes, they do have, men have G-spot too! The male
G-spot, which can also be called the prostate gland, can be stimulated
but it is not easily located. The two words prostate gland and male
G-spot, which can be used interchangeably, is an erogenous spot with the
power to drive men wild. Similar to a woman’s G-spot, the important
nerves for erection, orgasm and ejaculation converge on the male G-spot
and in the prostate and perineum areas. These areas also can provide
intense and heightened pleasure, and it is also where emotional and
sexual tissues are stored. Prostate stimulation can be both pleasurable
and healing for a man, and can help release emotional, as well as
physical stress. For many men, the stronger the stimulation to the male
G-spot, the stronger and more profound orgasms they experience.
Whenever the wife wants to stimulate
this area to give her husband the pleasure of this spot, all she needs
to do is to just caress the base of the penis, the scrotum and the inner
area of his thighs; by this the sexual pleasure will be heightened.
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
When the children can tell when we are having sex
My husband loves sex very much, he is
always demanding for it all the time. Though this is not a problem to
me, my challenge is how we should handle our sexual activities and life
that the children are not misled or tempted to do what they are not
ready for since they most times see what we do or hear us from the
bedroom. Our bedroom is close to theirs and certainly I am sure they
know what goes on when we lock ourselves behind the door, especially
when they can tell we are making love. The other day, my youngest child
asked me, ‘Mummy, are you going to play with daddy again this night? Ola
said anytime you do that, I am going to have a sister?’ Ola is his big
brother. When I told my husband, he was so nonchalant. Please help, what
do I do?
Mrs Davis Mary
Your intimacy with your spouse is as
important as the love and time you spend with your children, but your
sexual activities are not for public view. Though there are situations
and cases when couples are forced to share and live in the same room
with their children; in spite of this, you and your spouse must find a
way around it. Both of you should brainstorm together to arrive at the
best timing and place for your sexual activities without the
interference of your children. They should be taught to respect your
privacy and time together. Besides, it is also important and advisable
for parents to teach their children about sexual behaviours and
sexuality. If your husband is nonchalant, please handle the matter of
your children’s sexuality wisely and you might be surprised that they
may know far more than you think.
I am dying silently, so sex starved
If one spouse is sick for a long time,
how can the marriage be helped in a way that the marriage bed would not
be defiled? My husband has undergone a major surgical operation that has
affected his performances; he is not even helping the situation with
his attitude of not seeking for help. I am a young woman who loves sex a
lot and still sexually active and sometimes I am tempted to sleep
around. Whenever I bring up the idea that he should still go for help,
he calls me all sorts of dirty names and even accuses me of cheating on
him. What can I do? I am burning with sexual desire and frustrated of
not knowing what to do. Honestly, I am dying silently, so sex starved.
Mrs. Catherin Thomas
Are you genuinely interested in
seeing your husband hale and hearty again? I am so certain that if your
husband knows you are sincerely interested in his healing and wellbeing,
he will come round to agree to your persuasions. I would suggest you
patiently and wisely show him love, put aside your needs first and make
him feel loved, then when you know you have gained his trust and
confidence, let him see reasons why he needs to seek for help without
him feeling pressured and let him also see reasons why you also need to
have sexual expression. Let him know that his erectile challenges can be
cured, that he would be a man again. If you put his interest first, he
would cooperate with you.
Morning sex okay or not?
Does early morning sex really do set the
man okay for the day? When is the best time to have sex? Is it first
thing in the morning or late at night or somewhere in between? Why do
people believe good sex is all in the timing?
To be candid, sex can come up
between couples at any time of the day; the only most important thing is
for each spouse to note and understand their partner’s ‘sex clock.’
According to research, sex in the morning is guaranteed to put a smile
on your faces because scientists have found that hormones levels are as
much as five times higher in the morning, meaning in the morning, the
body sends out all the right chemical signals for both spouses to be in
the mood. In fact, men are most in the mood in the mornings because they
notice morning erections. Some spouses are in the mood mostly in the
heat of the day. This is more of a fantasy which makes them feel good
and add a bit of spice that makes some more desirable and passionate.
The evening is the most likely time for lovemaking; it is so convenient
and is the best way to de-stress. It triggers the release of chemicals
that help the body and mind to relax, and after some good rounds or sex,
sleep comes naturally.
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