They are doing very well abeg....In an interview with Vanguard, the veteran actor and politician who alongside his wife celebrated their wedding anniversary at Golden Tulip Hotel, Festac Town, Lagos, revealed the secret to his successful marriage.
Bob Manuel Udokwu and his wife, Cassandra, celebrated their 15th wedding anniversary last week on February 19, 2015.
In an interview with Vanguard, the veteran actor and politician who alongside his wife celebrated their wedding anniversary at Golden Tulip Hotel, Festac Town, Lagos, revealed the secret to his successful marriage.
Read excerpts of the interview below:
How has the journey been so far?
The
journey has been good, interesting sometimes intriguing. You know when
you get hitched with somebody from different backgrounds, you are two
separate individuals but as adults agree to set up a home together.
There are bound to be points of friction, disagreement and points of
serious agreement as well. You have to find a way to navigate those
narrow areas and be able to overcome prejudices, doubts or influences.
The key is dialogue; we talk. If you close the door of dialogue, just
welcome the deterioration of your relationship. We determined from day
one to make our marriage work, some don’t think like that. Some get
into marriage for marriage sake. If both parties agree to make things
work, it makes things better. I think that is what we have done.
When you initially got married, were you shocked at some of the things you discovered about marriage or about your wife?
When
I got married, I was so pleasantly surprised that I wondered why I
didn’t do it earlier. I found out that it was a beautiful thing to do.
If you don’t get married at a certain stage, you won’t be able to check
the excesses that we men have. Beyond your mother, its only your wife
that can make you come home at a certain time. You don’t do things in
excess because you have someone who looks after you beyond your mother,
somebody you left at home who cares for you. It’s also a sign of
maturity for us as Africans. You grow from being someone’s child to
being someone’s else husband or wife. It’s a responsibility. Our
society thrusts on you and hopes you handle it maturely. When you
succeed in marriage, its always very good
What lessons have you learnt in 15 years of your marriage?
I
have learnt that being a man you have a huge responsibility not just to
your wife, but also to your children. This children come into the
world and see you as their hero. The very first foundation of life
starts from the family. If you don’t get it right, then the society will
be worse off for it. The joy of family life is when you see your
children grow in life and they are able to do certain things based on
the knowledge you pass to them.
For intending couples and those who are already married, what will be your advice to them?
They
need to know what they want as couples. Do they want their marriage to
work? Do they want people to praise God because of their marriage? That
is what we wanted and that is what we have achieved .We believe in
dialogue and communication. When you have issues, discuss it among
yourselves immediately. Don’t leave it for tomorrow, because when you
leave it for tomorrow, seeds of discord might be sowed. Once that seed
is being planted, then you start analyzing and digesting. The mind
starts thinking about different things. Communicate when you are
together and when you are not together. Marriage is friendship
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