Marriage is an institution that is full
of challenges, according to popular opinion. Many times, there are lots
of temptations that come along, which often determine its survival. To
this end, Fidelis Chidi blog asked some people what they would do if they found out that their siblings were having illicit affairs with their spouses
I’ll cut off relationship with my sibling
Odum Oruma
I would end the relationship with my
sibling. I believe marriage is something that you need to endure but
everything has to go with conditions. If there are no kids in the
picture, the best thing I would do is to take a walk. But if there are
kids, I would make amends and distance myself from my sibling for life.
I’ll forgive my brother, but divorce my wife
Sunday Best
I would let it go because he’s my
brother. I can’t kill him and if I take her back, it may occur again. So
I would just let everything go and let her go. I believe that is the
best thing I can do. I cannot stay in a relationship where my wife will
cheat on me.
I’d move out of the house
Sani Aishat
Wow! That’s a big question to answer. I
guess I would just move out first and foremost. Then, I would call my
family and my husband’s family to trash the case out because it is not
normal for him to marry two sisters or have sex with two sisters at the
same time. After this, I would talk to my sister because she is closer
to me; she is my blood. I would find out what went wrong because if she
can do that to me, she can kill me.
It’s adultery, I’ll divorce her
Peace Okorafor
I guess this is a very tight situation,
but if I should find out, I would carry out an investigation to know if
it was the first time or it had been happening for quite some time
before I got married to her or something just came up. I’d know whether
the affair was organised by my sibling or my spouse. When I’m done with
my investigation and I find out who initiated the idea, then I will know
the next line of action to take. I think the best thing to do if my
wife can bring herself so low to have sex with my sibling is to let her
go because it shows that she doesn’t have regard for me neither does she
love me. Also, as a Christian, the Bible makes us to understand that
you can only put your wife out or divorce her when she is caught in the
act of adultery and in this case, that’s what she did.
I’d walk out of the marriage
Omotosho Triumphant
That’s a very tough situation. First of
all, marriage is not slavery and that action would surely bridge the
trust between us. Also, if my sibling can do that to me, she can kill
me. I wouldn’t say because we have kids, I would stay in the marriage. I
would walk out of the marriage for real because I don’t want to leave
with guilt all the days of my life. I won’t be able to live with my
sibling again and I can’t stay by my husband anymore because if he can
have sex with my sibling, that means he can have sex with my house help
and anything he sees in skirt. With the rate of HIV outside, that means
he is not faithful and the Bible says you can only divorce your spouse
when the person is an infidel. I can’t keep enduring, I just have to let
go because any day I remember that awful incident, I would just be sad
and downcast. I won’t want anyone to steal my peace and joy. Life is too
short to endure a rough marriage.
If they love each other, I’ll let them be
Popoola Daniel
First of all, I would forgive them
because the word ‘love’ means ‘for better, for worse.’ Then I would find
out if they love each other and if they say yes, I would let them be.
As a human being, I would react first negatively. I would feel betrayed
for a while. I won’t touch her, but later on, I would ask my wife why
she did that. Her answer would determine what I would do.
I’ll forgive and let it go
Rosaline Jackson
That’s a serious issue. If I find out
that my spouse is having sex with my sibling, it’s a terrible thing, but
the truth of the matter is that the harm has been done and the best
option is to forgive and let it go because there is nothing I would do
to actually erase whatever has been done. Just forgive, let them go. If I
need to give my sibling space, I would do that, I don’t think there is
anything else I can do because what will I do to my sister? I can’t kill
her. So I will just let it go and forge ahead in life.
I’ll ask my children what to do
Bonnyface Egwabhor
I won’t kill her, but if she has a kid
with me, I would consider that fact before making my decision. If my
kids are grown up, I would consult them on what to do and whatever
decision they make, I will follow.
I may divorce my husband
Adejoke Adekoya
It is odd. I never pray for that. I
really can’t imagine it happening to me, but I think I would have to
leave the guy because I believe it’s so bad for him to have sex with my
sibling. It is not good and this can make me to walk away from the
marriage.
I can’t tell what I’d do
Michael Ayobami
This is not a funny situation. I know
that anything can happen in marriage and there are trial periods. It
would be very hard to tell what I would do until it happens, though I
don’t pray it ever happens. It could destabilise or even destroy
everything we have built together. All the same, I believe maturity is
needed to handle the situation.
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