Fewa Otedola
Fewa Otedola is the only son of one of Africa's richest men and CEO
of Forte Oil, Femi Otedola. Unlike his sisters, Olawumi, DJ Cuppy and
Temi Otedola, Fewa likes to keep things private.
Sharing a personal story about her brother, during World Autism Day
on the 2nd April 2017, Temi Otedola revealed how the family have coped
with Fewa being autistic.
She wrote on her JTO fashion blog: "I
think it’s important to first describe what it is to those of you
reading who are less familiar. Essentially, autism is a social
development disorder which affects the cognitive, communicative and
interactive ability of the brain. People with autism struggle with
heightened sensory stimulation and need a lot of attention and support
from their parents, teachers and siblings to ensure they can lead the
most productive and happy life possible. Raising awareness is not the
main goal at this point–understanding is, and even more
important–acceptance. So this Autism Awareness Day I ask for all of you,
to appreciate, love on, or simply accept those living with autism.
In 2004, my mum called my sisters and me into her bedroom. With
the composure only a mother can have, she told us that our baby
brother, Fewa, had ‘special needs’. While my sisters asked questions,
all I could do was think about what this would mean for me, the already
overindulged, youngest of three girls.
Thankfully, my selfishness quickly wore off and Fewa quickly
became the centre of our family. The role of an older sister always
entails some sort of responsibility. However, the role of an older
sister to an autistic sibling is a great deal more work. At first, it
seemed like every day with him was a challenge, especially for my
mother. I remember seeing my mum helping Fewa with simple tasks like
brushing his teeth, helping him to get dressed, or feeding him lunch,
with each day ultimately ending in exhaustion. Our family has been so
blessed to have help from carers, but no one can deny the resilience my
mother has had raising Fewa. It is the thing I most respect about her.
Every day, I see him becoming more independent. Our
relationship is becoming less one-sided; I can truly say that we are
friends. Fewa doesn’t need anyone’s sympathy. He is the most genuine and
caring person I know. This is probably why I have never seen Fewa’s
autism as necessarily and totally negative, it is a unique
characteristic that adds to the complexity of the person that he is.
I am not naïve or unrealistic. I certainly have some gnawing
worries about the future. Fewa will always need support of some kind. At
age sixteen he still requires 24 hour help. I would say that the
biggest misconception about autism is that people who have it are
socially inept geniuses – Rain man, anyone? Yes, that is true for some
autistic people, but there is a reason the official term is “autism
spectrum disorder”. It is a spectrum, and it can range from children who
are not able to speak at all to children who can go to normal schools.
No matter what I do, I need to build my life with Fewa in mind.
My parents won’t be around forever, and his care and well-being will
become the responsibility of me and my sisters. It is true that
consideration for Fewa will always affect the decisions I make in my
life. Despite this, Fewa is by no means a burden. These worries do not
reduce the immense love I have for my brother who has brought so much
joy and shown me the purest form of love. To quote The Bard, “Love
sought is good, but given unsought is better.” It is Fewa’s
unconditional love that has shaped me into the woman I am today – a
sister, a teacher, a carer and a best friend."
Courageous words there! May I please provide you with some information that could be of immense help to your brother.
ReplyDelete1. Protect him from Electromagnetic Radiations (EMR) generated by electrical/electronics and wireless devices in your home, especially in the room where he sleeps. EMR exposure is one of the worst things that could happen to one with autism. The less EMR, the better.
2. Provide him with Adequate Cellular Nutrition (ACN). ACN is the indispensable foundation for good health and healing as well as the support pillar for anything we do to battle chronic health problems.The only way to achieve ACN is to include sprouts in his wellness package.
Implementing the above two things may prove to be the best thing that would ever happen to his health.It could lead to sustainable unprecedented improvements.